Thinking About Therapy but Feeling Unsure?
You’re Not Alone — and You Don’t Have to Be Certain to Begin If you’ve been thinking about therapy but haven’t booked yet, there’s a good chance you’ve had one (or more) of these thoughts: If any of that sounds familiar, you’re not doing anything wrong. In fact, hesitation is one of the most common […]
Finding Steady Ground After a Separation or Relationship Ending
Intro Separation and relationship loss are experiences that can quietly dismantle your sense of normal. Even when you know the relationship needed to end, the emotional and practical impact can feel heavier and more complex than expected. This is not just the end of a relationship — it is the beginning of learning who you […]
Move Gently: Lessons in Change from Donkey Training
Have you ever wanted to change something in your life — start exercising, cut back on alcohol, or stop doom-scrolling — but nothing seems to stick? You’re not alone. That cycle of trying and failing is familiar to almost everyone, which is why New Year’s resolutions so often turn into clichés. Behavioural change is hard. […]
When Self-Compassion Wasn’t Just a Tip—It Was the Only Way Through
I was at work when a message landed that made my stomach drop. My chest tightened, my mind went blank, and tears pricked. With less than ten days until we were due to leave, I learned my son’s passport was out of date. I’m usually organised, so this news hit me for six. For a […]
Healthy Boundaries & Access: A Respect–Responsibility Model
When we share parts of ourselves—our time, energy, emotions, or personal information—we’re giving someone access to us. Ideally, this access should match the level of respect and responsibility they show in handling what we share. Think of this like a sliding scale: Problems arise when we give someone Level 7 access, but their actions only […]
Stop Chasing the Snake: What a Viral Meme Taught Me About Healing
Not long ago, I came across a meme on Facebook that stopped me in my tracks. It featured an image of a snake with this caption:“When a snake bites you, you don’t chase the snake to find out why it bit you or try to prove that you didn’t deserve it—you get medical attention.” Let […]
Striking the Balance – The Rise of Online-Only Friendships: What Does It Mean for Young People Today?
Friendships are changing—and fast. More and more young people are finding their closest friends aren’t school or family friends, but people they’ve never even met in real life. Some young people will chat every night before bed but won’t say a word to each other at school. Others game together for hours online yet never […]
Boundaries, Respect, and Real Talk: The Teen Guide to Healthy Relationships
Let’s be real—some people treat you well, others… not so much. But how do you know when someone deserves your time, energy, or trust? This blog gives you the tools to figure that out—based on something we call the Access: Respect and Responsibility Model. It’s all about making sure people earn their spot in your […]
How to Respond (or Not Respond) to DARVO
In our last blog, we explored how to recognise DARVO in real-life communication—when someone Denies, Attacks, and Reverses Victim and Offender in response to being held accountable. Once you can spot DARVO, the next challenge is learning how to navigate it without getting hooked into confusion, guilt, or emotional escalation. This post walks you through […]
How to Recognise DARVO in Real-Life Communication
In our last post, we introduced the concept of DARVO—Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender—a common manipulation pattern used to deflect blame and flip the narrative. But DARVO isn’t always obvious. It can appear subtly in everyday conversations, text messages, emails—even in professional or co-parenting exchanges. In this post, we’ll help you spot DARVO in […]
